Berlatih Komunikasi Produktif Bersama Pasangan melalui Saklar

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Berawal dari suasana siang yang terik, semua orang di rumah sudah terkapar di atas Kasur. Pun termasuk saya. Tanpa menunggu waktu lama, azan Dhuhur menjadi alarm untuk membuka mata, kemudian tidur kembali.

Entah, jam berapa, terdengar suara panggilan dari luar. “Paket … paket!”

Saya sempat membuka mata, tetapi karena tubuh masih setengah sadar hanya refleks memanggil suami. Namun, keadaan kami tak jauh beda. Ia malah lebih terlelap daripada saya. Tinggalah, Hakim (6 tahun) yang terbangun.

Tanpa menunggu perintah lebih lanjut, ia dengan sukarela keluar dan mengambil paket itu. Setelahnya saya tidur lagi. Dalam keadaan masih menikmati mimpi terdengar gerutuan dari luar. Lebih tepatnya dari teras rumah.

“Saklar lampu mobilnya mana ….” Entah apa lagi yang keluar dari mulut suami, yang pasti ia terdengar marah karena salah satu onderdil yang dipesan tak ada dan paket yang sedianya ia pesan sudah compang-camping dan berserakan di teras.

Saya pun akhirnya terpaksa bangun dan melihat Hakim sudah dalam kondisi terduduk lesu di depan laptop. Sedangkan suami masih sibuk mencari barangnya disertai omelan yang jarang keluar darinya.

Poin Komunikasi Produktif yang Saya Pelajari Hari Ini

Dalam berlatih komunikasi produktif ada beberapa hal yang perlu diperhatikan, di antaranya:

  1. Memilih waktu ternyaman untuk memulai pembicaraan
  2. Sampaikan pesan dengan jelas
  3. KISS (Keep It Short and Simple)
  4. Sampaikan dengan sepenuh hati
  5. Menjalin eye contact dengan pasangan

Melihat kondisi suami saat ini yang sedang diliputi amarah, saya berusaha menahan perkataan yang selama ini tersimpan di mulut. Selain ingin tahu apa yang terjadi, juga kepo ingin tahu barang seperti apa yang hilang. Maklum, emak-emak tidak tahu barang-barang untuk perbaikan atau modifikasi mobil.

Saya pun hanya mencoba membantu membereskan barang dalam diam. Yah, walaupun sebenarnya masih buta akan apa yang dicari setidaknya saya ada di dekatnya.

Setelah semua dirasa lebih terkendali, saya mendekati suami. “Perutmu sakit?”

Kenapa saya tanya kondisi perutnya? Karena dari kemarin ia memang mengeluh perut sakit dan sesaat setelah melepaskan amarah dan perkataan yang tak terkontrol ia terlihat memegangi perut.

Walau masih pelit bicara, ia hanya mengangguk, kemudian terdengar curhatan darinya. Kalau saklar yang dicari merupakan barang yang selama ini ditunggu. Harganya cukup mahal di marketplace. Itu pun modelnya tidak selalu ada, custom istilahnya.

Tadi, selepas menerima paket sepertinya Hakim langsung mengambil gunting dan membuka paket itu. Namun, saat ditanya, ia hanya bilang tidak tahu. Yah, kejahilan anak lanang memang tidak ada duanya. Kebetulan apeslah hari itu. Entah barang yang dikirim memang lengkap atau tidak, kami tidak bisa komplain. Karena bagaimana pun tak ada bukti unboxing.

Pun kalau barang itu dimainkan, entah di mana keberadaannya. Walau di cari di sekitar teras dan garasi tak ada jejak. Jadilah sore itu, kami semua gotong-royong mencari saklar yang katanya berwarna merah.

Perasaan tak nyaman masih menyelimuti rumah hingga malam menjelang. Walau anak sudah meminta maaf, masih ada perasaan dongkol yang terselip dalam hati suami. Semuanya terlihat jelas dari wajah suami.

Lama kelamaan suami pun luluh. Setelah salat Maghrib kami bicara berdua sembari menikmati nasi goreng. Suami yang semula cemberut kini mulai tertawa dan mengajak bercanda. Saya pun akhirnya membuka percakapan tentang topik saklar tadi.

“Kamu ndak marah aku nanti mau beli lagi?”

Pertanyaan itu terlontar begitu saja dari mulut suami. Biasanya saya memang sensitif perihal suami yang kelepasan kontrol dalam berbelanja barang untuk memenuhi hobinya. Namun, kali ini kondisinya berbeda.

Saya tersenyum kembali bertanya tentang urgensi saklar itu. Pun bagaimana ia melepas amarah dengan cara yang tidak biasa. Dari obrolan ringan ini kami pun juga saling minta maaf juga dengan anak.

Partner untuk Selalu Berjuang Lebih Baik

Suami menjadi partner yang tak terganti. Dalam keadaan bagaimana pun, ia menjadi rekan untuk selalu berproses ke arah lebih baik. Apalagi untuk saya yang lebih banyak hidup berdua dengan bocil. Akibat LDR kalau ini.

Bersamanya, saya bisa melepas emosi yang selama ini sering tersimpan dalam hati. Yah, walau hari ini kebalikannya. Saya masih bersyukur ia selalu mau instropeksi diri. Setelah marah akan selalu bertanya, aku tadi marahi anak dengan cara benarkah? Apakah aku akan menyakiti hatinya. Pun apakah perdebatan ini sampai menyakiti hati saya.

Kalau sudah seperti ini, saya bisa kembali mengeluarkan uneg-uneg dengan lebih leluasa. Beruntunglah saat saya menulis ini, ia bisa kembali bermain bersama bocil, walau kadang tetap nyeletuk, mana saklarku?

Instropeksi Bersama

Lebih banyak menjadi pendengar bukanlah sesuatu yang buruk. Apalagi kalau saya masih dalam keadaan waras dan sehat. Mendengar suami ngoceh di luar kebiasannya justru terdengar lucu. Yah, mungkin saya juga seperti itu kalau lagi ngereog.

Saya pun kalau ada masalah butuh waktu untuk meluapkan dan mengatur emosi kembali. Di saat seperti itu, rasanya ingin sendiri. Butuh waktu untuk sekadar refleksi apa yang terjadi. Pun dibutuhkan suasana nyaman untuk membangun mood dan memulai percakapan.

Beruntung hari ini bisa mengendalikan diri dan mampu memilih momen yang tepat untuk kembali menjalin komunikasi dengan suami. Plus saya bisa makan enak. Ho ho. Setelah melepas amarah, perut pasti keroncongan. Di saat itulah ajakan dinner di luar pun menjadi hiburan. Sepiring nasi goring bisa menjadi media damai yang nikmat nan murah meriah.

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